Lessons from the Mental Hospital | Glennon Doyle Melton | TEDxTraverseCity

  • Опубликовано:  4 года назад
  • Glennon Doyle Melton is the author of the New York Times Bestseller, CARRY ON, WARRIOR, founder of http://www.momastery.com, and creator of http://www.monkeeseemonkeedo.org. Glennon believes that life is equal parts beautiful and brutal, and writes about the "brutiful" she finds in marriage, motherhood, faith, addiction and recovery. Glennon unleashes her wit, courage and irreverence to call us to accept ourselves exactly as we are today, but also incidentally inspires us to live bolder, more meaningful lives for others. Glennon is a speaker and regular contributor to Huffington Post and other publications. CARRY ON, WARRIOR and Glennon's philanthropic work have been featured on The TODAY Show, The Talk, Ladies' Home Journal, Parents Magazine, and American Baby, among other television and print outlets. She lives in Naples, Florida with her family.

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  • Ben Friar
    Ben Friar 2 часа назад

    Thank you so much. I have been struggling for a long time but its going ok now.

  • hayley boller
    hayley boller 22 часа назад

    i guess im not worthy...my son passed away at birth. i cant wait to die and be with him again.

  • Denise LeBeau
    Denise LeBeau 2 дня назад

    I am you and you are me......I have more hope because of your talk. I can't wait to feel the sunshine and to look forward to a new day. Thank you for sharing. 💐

  • ThisisKaila
    ThisisKaila 3 дня назад

    Love her honesty ❤

  • headlineprod
    headlineprod 4 дня назад

    beautiful speech. thank you! a lot of what you said resonated with me.

  • Lunar U
    Lunar U 5 дней назад

    I was in a mental hospital for a while, now my experience was pretty bad but this should NOT stop you from getting help.

    I was admitted because I was anorexic and had suicidal thoughts. I only met my therapist once, the day I got there. I only met the doctor once, also the day I got there. It was mostly girls in the hospital, and I was in the teenage wing, so of course that came with having LOTS of drama. One thing I remember is that the first day I got there a girl was in paper clothes, when I asked why she said that she tried to hang herself in the bathroom with her jacket. You make great friends there, they don't judge, most of the time no one judges anyone else. I only got to speak to my mother once a week, and only saw her once a week. I never talked to my dad while I was in there because he lives in w different state and they wouldn't let his calls through. Honestly most of the day we just colored in coloring books, so it got pretty boring. But soon it became evident that I was DYING in there. Even though I was admitted because of my anorexia, no one actually checked if I was eating or not. We got snacks every 3 hours or so, so when everyone else got cheeze it's and Oreos and rice crispies, I got fruit. I was supposed to be gaining weight. AND I GOT FRUIT. Even though I made friends, I felt even more isolated than before. It got to the point that my heart bpm was getting deathly low, when I asked to call my mom to secretly tell her about it, the therapist did not listen to me and ignored me until she finally got tired of my insistence and let me. Once she heard me talk to my mom about it she took the phone away from me and told me to stop lying to her and talked to my mom then hung up. I asked the physiatrist that I met with every day about it but he had said it was normal to have a heart rate that was that low. I knew I was dying, and I knew I wasn't going to get medical attention. Almost no one did. There was a virus sweeping the wing and no one did anything. There was vomit in the hallways, in the common rooms. I only got out when my mom got worried after hearing my talk to her only for the therapist to call me a liar and called my doctor at the children's hospital, she reached out and got my stats (weight , bpm, etc) from that morning and ordered that I be let go and transferred over to the children's hospital. I had lost 15 pound since being in there. I went in at 95 pounds (I was 5'4"). I told my doctor about what it was like in there and she was surprised that they only gave me fruit for snack, and no one checked if I was eating. I was given antidepressants in there, but my new psychiatrist told me that it was nothing to make a difference. The nurses in there where the real heroes, they cared the most it seemed.

    • Lunar U
      Lunar U 5 дней назад

      Also a lot of people I've met seem to have the impression that anorexia is a white girl problem and they need to just eat a hamburger, and they shouldn't be afraid of being fat, and they need to get over it.
      1. I'm Japanese
      2. When you are anorexic you become afraid of food (idk how to describe it)
      3.you can't just start eating again after not eating for months, even years, because your body will not be able to handle eating normally again and you can die.
      4. This didn't begin because I was insecure, or because I thought I was fat. I was depressed, stressed, and always had so much pressure on me. If I couldn't control anything else, at least I could control what I did and didn't eat. (This just got worse when I was in the mental hospital.)
      5. You can't just be cured. You can't just get over it. It's always in the back of my mind, do I really NEED to eat this? It has taken years for me to become as normal as I can be. This only resulted in efforts from my whole family and therapists and being in the hospital and being in the mental hospital. So please have more sympathy for anorexics if you don't have any. It's a mental disorder that became who I was. I was a shell of myself.


  • C. Love
    C. Love 6 дней назад

    Excellent, and very inspiring talk - thank you so much - you're an amazing person. Very well done! One of the best TED talks I've seen.

  • SAWBS4u2 Paula Kyersten/MzAwesome
    SAWBS4u2 Paula Kyersten/MzAwesome 7 дней назад

    This is my story....minus bulimia in the mental hospital!!! Thank u!!! It is a Brutaful world!!

  • mixie6650
    mixie6650 8 дней назад

    Wow I found this video exactly when I needed it the most. I am writing and plan on telling my story. I am afraid no one will listen . my friend said people will judge. I said if I just teach one person or help them it is worth it. You are truly an inspiration. Thank you

  • Ms40Watts
    Ms40Watts 10 дней назад

    What a beautiful, moving, genuine and honest talk… an amazing cape…. but then again we all have a gentle super-power within us that dreams to fly.

  • A Nony Mouse
    A Nony Mouse 10 дней назад

    She must have went to a really quality mental hospital. Not all of them are like that. Unfortunately, there are some that are more like understaffed holding cells.

  • Kiesha Mincey
    Kiesha Mincey 14 дней назад

    I think Elizabeth Smart among others is very courageous and did a fantastic job in sharing their stories to help others. I believe that it not only represents and encourage other children, adults who have been abducted or sexually abused but it encourage anyone who have their moments of feeling discouraged to feel like if she can get through what she has been through and change the negative situation to a positive one and with a positive message that you can move forward no matter what you are going through. For that I personally thank Elizabeth and all who speak out, motivate and empower others to keep pushing forward. I am always encouraging others and I love helping people.

  • Nancy Collins
    Nancy Collins 14 дней назад

    love

  • yarden calif
    yarden calif 16 дней назад

    During the past few days, I've watched dozens of these TEDx videos. This was the first and only one to make me cry.

  • indumini
    indumini 16 дней назад

    'But what I learned from that time was that sitting with the pain and the joy of being a human being while refusing to run for any exits is the only way to become a real human being.' Love this.

  • Sparkle Evenmore
    Sparkle Evenmore 17 дней назад

    Dialog from Ordinary People:
    Conrad: "you don't miss the hospital?"
    Karen: "no."
    Conrad: "you don't miss Leo's corny jokes?"
    Karen: "this is the world Conrad. The real world. People have to change, you know. Why did you like the hospital?"
    Conrad: "nobody hid anything there."
    (I am paraphrasing and combining scenes I know. Who do you think was healthier by the end of the movie?)

  • Success In Life
    Success In Life 18 дней назад

    wow.. she described so fully the way I've felt for so many years. amazing. I've been trying to take my "cape" off for a very long time.

  • Julia M.
    Julia M. 18 дней назад

    i just got out of the psych ward.....this talk is honestly 100% true

  • edie sheridan
    edie sheridan 20 дней назад

    NUMB OURSELEVES ...SO TRUE!

  • FantasticClaudia
    FantasticClaudia 21 день назад

    I've thought about going to a mental hospital before. I've tried to kill myself. 2 twice (failed and parents never knew) and self harm all the time. I have anxiety and visit my therapist every Monday. My friend visited one and she said it really helped her, I don't know what to do. I want help but I don't know how to get it

  • Audrey Highleyman
    Audrey Highleyman 25 дней назад

    "I did not want to deal with the discomfort and messiness of being a human being." - How I have felt everyday for 11 years.

  • kristine faust
    kristine faust 28 дней назад

    Thankful for her sharing!

  • Morgain Reed
    Morgain Reed 29 дней назад

    This is my favourite ted talk, I watch it every time I feel like I'm dying and it never fails to inspire me

  • Nicole Urdang
    Nicole Urdang 1 месяц назад

    Brave, beautiful, and articulate. I love the imagery of the capes.

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  • Zora, Simone and Annan Duquette-Hoffman

    I agree

  • nameless
    nameless 1 месяц назад

    I've been to a hospital twice, the first time helped, but the second time did nothing except make things worse. It's generic.

  • michelle staunton
    michelle staunton 1 месяц назад

    She said collage was way crazier than the mental hospital and everybody laughed but it is true !

  • Caroline Cardwell
    Caroline Cardwell 1 месяц назад

    I love farting

  • Elizabeth Pokos
    Elizabeth Pokos 1 месяц назад

    That was my biggest fear in school, telling someone how I really felt then getting sent away to a mental ward...kind of still is.

  • almohadillaseisefes
    almohadillaseisefes 1 месяц назад

    despite of some cinic comments and laughs, it was deep and I felt totally her message

  • Andri Ramirez
    Andri Ramirez 1 месяц назад

    this is powerful

  • Charlie Wow
    Charlie Wow 1 месяц назад

    Today, and most days, i'm not fine. But I'm ok, and I'm coping, and that's the best I can do right now, in the future I will get better.
    When she said, "Maybe I'm not broken." I teared up out of nowhere and that was the second time I've cried in 3 years. Heavy stuff.

  • Susan Shaw
    Susan Shaw 1 месяц назад

    Love this. Thank you so much.

  • Rajeev C
    Rajeev C 1 месяц назад

    Everyone in the world is suffering for one reason or other, at one time or other......Some are saying everything explicitly while some people are keeping mum.....This is the difference.....Success really depends on how we face ( deal with ) the adversities and come out successfully in life.......If we run away like cowards, we will never be able to see the other end of the tunnel......

  • Rajeev C
    Rajeev C 1 месяц назад

    Lemme say one thing....Modern television, videos, Internet , are all playing a major role in affecting our minds....If the viewers are watching horror, violence, murder, occult, rape, etc., their minds will naturally register responses even without their knowledge.......This is rightly called " stimuli" or " triggers" .......In other words, if we get a chance to see a murder or road accident or any other trauma, we suffer mental agony.......We must be very selective in choosing what content to watch in TV or video.......We must avoid watching visuals that are not in good taste......We cannot avoid all stimuli and live in a cave ! We must be very selective ......If we tend to watch fast action movies like Die Hard, Terminator, etc., we will not be able to withstand the speed of the scenes.....What we really need is an ideal escape from our own problems and rise to a higher level of understanding and happiness that is not at all dependent on any worldly thing, luxury or idea.......We must gradually learn to come up above all the diversities and discover our core of Being......

  • Mary Candullo
    Mary Candullo 1 месяц назад

    Check out The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron, PhD- this is a medically classified trait of intense sensitivity. It is not a disorder!

  • Alternative Headlines
    Alternative Headlines 1 месяц назад

    What was the point of that?

  • NikkiVegan
    NikkiVegan 1 месяц назад

    "It was just hope's daily invitation to me to come back to life." So beautiful.

  • Madi R
    Madi R 1 месяц назад

    You are strong and beautiful. Good for you for having the strength and courage and thank you for sharing your story. It's hard

  • Ana Mae Banana
    Ana Mae Banana 1 месяц назад

    🔌

  • serenechy
    serenechy 1 месяц назад

    Thank you

  • Kate Reaves
    Kate Reaves 1 месяц назад

    Finally Honesty!! Bravo!!

  • Steven Bosch
    Steven Bosch 1 месяц назад

    The surname Glennon is Anglicized form of the Gaelic Patronymic name Mag Leannáin, meaning "son of Leannán." The root word of this name is "leann," meaning "cloak."Jul 28, 2016

  • Willa
    Willa 1 месяц назад

    i am changed

  • Willa
    Willa 1 месяц назад

    i am changed

  • susan Harrison
    susan Harrison 2 месяца назад

    :) a the generation on, it made a difference

  • Samuel Brown
    Samuel Brown 2 месяца назад

    http://canterbury-nz.academia.edu/SamuelBrown

  • Amie Russ
    Amie Russ 2 месяца назад

    Amazing how a complete stranger can tell your same story.

  • contrafax
    contrafax 2 месяца назад

    "I did not want to deal with the discomfort and messiness of being a human being."

  • Rissa Joy
    Rissa Joy 2 месяца назад

    I love this!! such a beautiful message & speaker

    Zephaniah 3:17

  • hann j. michaels
    hann j. michaels 2 месяца назад

    a true inspiration. she threw up everyday for 18 years.

  • Anabiel
    Anabiel 2 месяца назад

    My capes are smile, laugh, small talks, touching others. But I hate doing that. I learnt it. I am still unconfortable doing that. It's unatural. And I am so amazed when I see others doing these, because I know mine are fake and others not. I hate that society think girls need to do that and love it. There is no such thing that I hate as gossiping, telling "you are my bestfriend", crying in front of others, revealing emotions. I love to argue, to challenge myself and others, to just think in my head even when I am with others, to just be alone because I just don't found myself boring (You do? You hang with others because you found yourself boring? I don't...) and, Capes are kinda hard to wear, it's why I can't be with others too much long... And you? What are your capes?

  • sarah Anderson
    sarah Anderson 2 месяца назад

    Wow! I understand everything she is saying and can relate ... Tremendously. Bless this woman!!!! Amazing talk!

  • Psychic and Medium, Jane Voneman-DuPerow
    Psychic and Medium, Jane Voneman-DuPerow 2 месяца назад

    Thanks for this video. Makes me think!

  • Amanda Saunders
    Amanda Saunders 2 месяца назад

    Thank God for her, her words, and her story. Honestly, thank God.

  • Michele Flory
    Michele Flory 2 месяца назад

    It is amazing to hear someone say exactly how I feel everyday , and express it and stand there so brave . I love these ted pod casts

  • Nikki Nikki
    Nikki Nikki 2 месяца назад

    yes!!! Sensitive YES!

  • Nikki Nikki
    Nikki Nikki 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for your testimony!

  • GonG108
    GonG108 2 месяца назад

    if there is a place called Hell i am 100% sure it is filled up with psychiatry workers and doctors , since i made my experience with such places i have nightmares and i don´t know what would have been better for me , to stay at home and get along with my problems or to expose me to professional sadists and perverted staff of ( german ) psychiatries with third reich laws for mental sick ppl .
    But their sick and ugly Karma will get them all , payday will come

  • reeta skeeter
    reeta skeeter 2 месяца назад

    It resonated with me so much when she said we were born to make the unknown known even if we conciously feel we must hide it. I was a young anorexic girl and deep down I felt as if it was a relflection of how I felt inside like i was starving to death. I felt others wanted me to be a machine perfect and mature and thin and pretty. On the outside I tried to fit this mold in every way When I realized it was killing me I didnt even care. I felt that it was a message I needed to send to the world, I wanted to die or atleast I was at peace with the idea of it. I also wanted so badly for someone to stop me and tell me I don't have to do this. I dont have to starve or be skinny noone did notice not even my mother until I was 90 pounds and 5"7. I was almost dead and was only aware that I was doing everything perfectly everyday. Eating the right amount of calories getting good grades and cheerleading. As long as I kept doing this same thing every day I would be safeeven if it was slowly killing me- If this is what was right, and it was according to those around me, then being dead would be a relief.

  • Kayla Dupuis
    Kayla Dupuis 2 месяца назад

    I really wish my inpatient experiences were as decent as hers. All I seemed to learn is take at least 2 medications at a time and don't ask questions...

  • Melissa Kettunen
    Melissa Kettunen 2 месяца назад

    There are tears in my eyes listening to this talk. I work in a behavior health facility. Just to hear about one person's positive experience takes away all my misgivings with my chosen profession. Hope and grace to all those who struggle. We care.

  • Ron Don
    Ron Don 2 месяца назад

    I spent time in mental hospital. It was ok. Life sucks I still want to die but I might not kill myself

  • Sarah Forrest
    Sarah Forrest 2 месяца назад

    👏 Incredibly powerful and brave to share your story and to share the story of our human vulnerability. The mental hospital sounds amazing! Art, music, writing and dance are all therapeutic avenues and incredibly valuable in many ways but especially for self expression. I loved listening to your story and expression. THANK YOU!

    • Sarah Forrest
      Sarah Forrest 2 месяца назад

      Being sensitive is a gift, with the gift of sensitivity we can become completely empathetic with others, we can be open minded and comforting enough for others to share their feelings of pain and vulnerability but it does take going through a lot of painful experiences (which we feel deeply because we're incredibly sensitive to pain) to really realise that it's a gift and not a curse, that's where self love and acceptance comes in. I personally found that the teachings of Louise L Hay and other spiritual teachers were incredibly important in taking steps towards self love and acceptance...I personally believe that empaths are here as an expression of mercy, peace and love, which really is a gift!


  • Tonia Parker
    Tonia Parker 2 месяца назад

    AMEN!!👊👏👏👏👏👏 Thank you for caring & sharing your youtube video😊

  • Paul Falchetta
    Paul Falchetta 2 месяца назад

    Telling the truth is risky, because you might find out the truth of the ones you tell your truth to is that they are uncaring jerks.

  • Bobhan Bobell
    Bobhan Bobell 2 месяца назад

    Love Glennon!

  • Kathy Bramley
    Kathy Bramley 3 месяца назад

    I loved this. But I am also wondering what oily means and the significance. (edit additional info on thoughts: it seems like more than I could get from a quick dictionary definition). It's upsetting (edit - it is a temporary consumption of the mind, it's not necessarily a creep thing), upsetting me _with_ her that I don't understand. (There's a relatively selfish "with me" thing as well. But I am imagining without effort the affecting impressionistic trailer for a story I want to hear) I am not always good with language even though I have a larger than average vocabulary, that's one reason I think I possibly have Aspergers even though two psychiatrists disagreed and wouldn't refer me, so that's a big personal anxiety and emotional knot but in the distance so relatively muted and small here to the other parts. And I am afraid this is too intrusive and weird and possibly consequential in ways that I can't predict and I am being reckless and unsympathetic. But people often do seem to leak their truths, the ones that mean something, by repetition and undertows, and everybody else is selectively deaf and seems to strategically tune it out. Except for The Mentalist and mentalism that is manipulative, and I don't want to be a mentalist. And I am scared of the reactions and my reactions to other people - it's like constantly listening to other people's -64- _36_ questions (that might make you fall in love - see Guardian articles etc). So it's like I am flirting, perhaps more, Machiavellian or an amateur shrink, analysing people as if engaging in over weening psychiatry and psychology that is scary and triggers ordinary fear ordinarily. People don't like being pried into, having their capes taken off or lifted up. It doesn't work that way - Superman decides on the transformation. And this brings up feminist identity and ideas about consent, and when and I find newer writing about when and if we demand emotional labour from people really difficult, as I see the need for connection, availability, the fact I find it hard to help myself wanting emotional connection and not having the same polite filters as everybody else. But I also see the need for control, safety; a matter of arranging, each time we connect, an interface with a personality within spaces that are a good fit, sociably and conscientiously and practically, having a good impact; win-win.
    But I also find myself with a problem with actively responding to this leaking information, because I have difficulty filtering and controlling my responses and nobody talks about it or seems to want to talk about it, or even knows what I mean. And there's no one answer, like all consent, there's a reason for the question and you have to seek for a answer. And perhaps seeking that answer makes me vulnerable.

    I hope it's not too big a deal. And my cognitive stuff, I've forgotten your name when I should use it. (...Glennon Doyle Melton! editing in.) But if it's OK, I'm interested in what oily means. I noticed you said it a lot. And I enjoyed the talk and found it meaningful. And it gave me the opportunity to have these feelings and explorations in mind and writing, although I hope that's OK. So. Thank you.

    • Kathy Bramley
      Kathy Bramley 3 месяца назад

      Confession can be an addiction, or obsessional-compulsive action, an uncontrolled sea of hope and feelings still capable of drowning. But I don't want to deny the goodness of confession. And I feel at home sitting in a sea of my own feelings, trying to make them into something but really just the most I have to do is feel and that's all there is. The feelings themselves,
      along with physical feelings and accompanying duvet wraps or slouchingly hugging myself or flopping just intensively being in the moment, that's what I do instead of spending time with people because it's easier. And it's natural. It's notbas acutely painful. All though it can be. And I get muscle aches, migraines that make me throw up or shake especially connected with major life decisions and PMS possibly. But it's still a warm appealingly lazy bubble. I only have to feel and that's a precious commodity when the world tells you no.

      The edge of that comforting space is connected to personal health activism, neurodiversity/neurological difference type therapies and self soothing advice that also goes with DBT and increasingly everything else as well. Blurt Foundation self care boxes for depression, other providers etc, come to mind. But what also comes to mind is my own slightly addictive/obsessional blends of self training and exploration and self treatment/comfort. I ignore my ecsma, scratch and let it flare away. But I am always trying to work out muscle tension, maybe going for that warmth and peace you get with a good cry or heroin. I am feeling slightly paranoid about a conversation on exactly these things on Twitter with Ewan MacGregor promoting Trainspotting, and a queer activist apparently being random and asking what a good waybto get the feeling of massage if you don't like massage, and Macgregor had answered heroin, to which the RTd answer was we get it you were in a film' and I replied with a slightly inadequate further random message about duvet wraps, sensory and core work, which is fairly standard autism and special needs and meme type stuff. (My son has Aspergers DX, my daughter had neonatal sepsis brain damage comes out like mid range autism, abi can be like that but perhaps genes and family environment influence it).

      In my crazy world my exaggerated self regulations that blend into exercise and eating disorder are like taking heroin; over recent years thstvhas been what has been going through my mind when I don't know what my next right thing is and I am just sitting in my feelings, even though I have never touched heroin or even had medical opium.

      What I do is kindv' e imitation of a toddler or my younger self management strategies, being free with my body and lying in 'awkward' positions or repetitive actions like idiosyncratic callenetics, yoga, Pilate's, tai chi Alexander technique, Ironman/woman strongest man/woman and Ninja training and events, circus skills and gymnastic ability fantasies, and it comes out similar as well to Insanity(TM) workouts/conspiracy theory Julia Roberts/Flashdance thigh shimmying workouts. (My eating is mildly disordered being a bit binge and fast, but I have never been under treatment for it).

      I am a bit paranoid about who is trolling who, powers that be , or god, via me. And that seems like an idea I would be advised not to tell everybody, but it doesn't seem entirely me, I'm aware that seems crazy - grandiose, paranoid, delusional. Which the doctors have told me was a key point.
      But yes, it's really interesting, while also a pause for caution the realms it all spreads out to. What goes together.

      It doesn't seem to get talked about in a way that helps us. We are responsible for ourselves but we're responsible for each other too, we're developmentally trying to learn from others and yet group dynamics and normal psychology will tend to ostracise the difficult people. But that's not a win win. We sensitive people, we're real and we're here, and everybody's sensitivity is indeed variable. Anybody can have a meltdown, that's what road rage is: overwhelm gone feral, gone awry.

      We need to be able to have helpful attitudes and inclusion, inclusive strategies, social toolkit that works for everyone.

      Being the change starts with healthy accepting communication. Turning up, avoiding pitfalls are also very important: consequences can be bad, can't entirely be avoided, probably talking helps even if it can get long winded. Honed interaction is a skill. And it's taking me a lot of practice.

      I hope I have explained why I connected, loved back honestly, and been pleasurable or rewardingly insightful equal to my my ability and the need represented by the subject and indeed been equal in self disclosure to the potential of my asking what oily meant.

      If anyone has any helpful comments, helpful ideas about my situation, I wouldn't mind. As long as you don't tell me I am missing the point or life is passing me by. Or suggest I just go for it and grab life by the gronnies (balls). As people close to me and others do far too often. They misunderstood, or I failed to communicate it, and it's again back to this "don't have feelings" triggering and difficult and impractical social stance out there. But at the same time if you talk about "can't stop the feeling" being a creep thing, an annoying anti feminist song, I get told that's just how it is on the dancefloor. Grr.

      I can see why I obsess over this stuff and get avoidant. Even while I know how I need to show up to my life.

      Wish me luck! Best to all of you!


    • Kathy Bramley
      Kathy Bramley 3 месяца назад

      (I have been in home crisis care and at other times self harmed, by bashing not cutting. Sometimes I write it out, I don't know how but I find it easier to (in a vague and impressionistic way) join up the dots and connect through poetry what Glennon Doyle Melton learned in the mental hospital and beyond. This is her personal journey though it connected with mine as an audience response, seeing things reflected in a trail of life lessons in me too. Some of us are more sensitive. Feelings are guides. Honesty is good: communication happens anyway. I also connect it with politics. There's something about strategic and bad disconnection and connection that I am dealing with in my mind, wrestling quite ferociously at the moment. Because it's time I have to go out into the works and show up more in the home but I want to hide, and meanwhile refugees are dying. Mental health care seems like a very irrelevant side issue to all of this life drama. But it isn't entirely, do I even need to say it's not a competition. See my Twitter or Facebook for poems/art (probably easier on Twitter, without being overwhelmed with other media). I also left a comment on this video elsewhere. Feelings are emotional, physical, sensory, communication, behaviour. It all seems to be linked when I read up on it. *Emotion is a spectrum of comfort.*
      That's my reckoning. A meaningful combined status update that mainlines to us and everybody around us. So it has to be a force to be reckoned with, not forced or opened like a flood but it cannot be contained either became it's crucially intimate, intimately crucial information.

      While others say I am brave when I talk out or write confession or poetry I hate myself for not being honest or clear and bitesize and disciplined enough to get my truth out and elicit truth from other people so we can get down to actual personally and nationally, internationally or otherwise important problem solving, and I have a difficult time figuring out which is 'the next right thing.' Great phrase though. And this is full of _neat_ language. If you'll grant me an Americanism. )


  • reen
    reen 3 месяца назад

    Brilliant ! Girl you deserve much more than a applause. Courage, humor, honestly and many more virtues reflected in your talk . God Bless !

  • Ella Mary
    Ella Mary 3 месяца назад

    I feel like crying.. this is so true.

  • sharon reid
    sharon reid 3 месяца назад

    beautiful

  • Scarlett Whisperer ASMR
    Scarlett Whisperer ASMR 3 месяца назад

    Very good..I loved listening to this speech.

  • lady3lovewhite
    lady3lovewhite 3 месяца назад

    great greart very hepful very useful very painful real needed video thanks sooo much it is the most helpful one

  • Will Cunningham
    Will Cunningham 3 месяца назад

    I'm kind of in my own mental house :/

  • Lanna's Missing Link
    Lanna's Missing Link 3 месяца назад

    This was amazing! I'm pretty surprised at myself; I've never cried watching a Ted talk, but wow! Truly inspired

  • SerenaToxicat
    SerenaToxicat 3 месяца назад

    This is one of the best!

  • sue salmela
    sue salmela 3 месяца назад

    Glennon did such a wonderful job on this ted talk. She is a beautiful person!

  • shalev ku
    shalev ku 3 месяца назад

    wow, made me cry so long, at the part that she said to feel the guiy feelings..brilliant

  • Rachel Froehlich
    Rachel Froehlich 3 месяца назад

    She makes a mental hospital sound really appealing. It seems like it teaches you how to be a human and I kind of want to go.

  • E D
    E D 3 месяца назад

    I am not fine today...and I'm so glad I found your video to be able to say this.

  • ABDUL BASIT
    ABDUL BASIT 3 месяца назад

    "refusing to run from the exits is the only way to become a real human being" same was felt
    I fought the same circumstances

  • ABDUL BASIT
    ABDUL BASIT 3 месяца назад

    I had the same sensation last year

  • ybunnygurl
    ybunnygurl 3 месяца назад

    I'm so with her. I'm sensitive, and I decided to be sensitive in a world that doesn't always want to hear it, but if you ask if I'm ok and I'm not, I will tell you I'm not ok.

  • lexi stein
    lexi stein 3 месяца назад

    God, this is beautiful

  • Cora Fitz
    Cora Fitz 3 месяца назад

    Wow one of the best Ted talks I have heard, thank you Glennon, your talk made a difference to how i feel about myself today. Your story resonated and I heard it and I loved your Ted Talk, awesome job.

  • Patricia Maire
    Patricia Maire 3 месяца назад

    retract your fangs there Sara Delaney........she didn't make this for you to judge her.....😉

  • Nutty Nutt
    Nutty Nutt 3 месяца назад

    💙🖒👏

  • Khayla Williams
    Khayla Williams 3 месяца назад

    actually I'm not fine, difference is I don't have a cape

  • I Dislike the new Youtube
    I Dislike the new Youtube 3 месяца назад

    I would like to see your ass cheeks clap together.

  • Melody Neibert
    Melody Neibert 3 месяца назад

    I show my feelings always and what I have found is that people are uncomfortable, think I need mental help, I have been acused of being emotionally unstable etc.... I beleive that tears are just tears, they don't hurt and sometimes even help. why are people who have feelings and show them considered not normal?why do others feel so uncomfortable when someone cries? why don't we try to comfort strangers when they cry?why are sensitive people perceived as weak?

  • Jack Marchione
    Jack Marchione 3 месяца назад

    Beautiful message.  Thank you!

  • mymcy trust
    mymcy trust 3 месяца назад

    oh my word! the way she described herself in the beginning as an 8 year old kid is so accurate of how I feel facing the real world for most days.

  • Alina Oetken
    Alina Oetken 3 месяца назад

    I could never put my struggle into words but as she started talking I felt like she was telling my story! thank you so much!!!

  • AngieR Crawley
    AngieR Crawley 3 месяца назад

    OMG favorited! What a beautiful and honest spirit this woman has! I love her transparency, empathy, and realness. This type of care is missing in this world; our schools, families, even doctor's offices and churches.

  • Ness P
    Ness P 3 месяца назад

    "If you're still alive, you're still in light." I adore that.

  • Lauryn Olivia
    Lauryn Olivia 3 месяца назад

    Best. Ted. Talk. Ever.

  • Kimberly Bass
    Kimberly Bass 3 месяца назад

    thank you for the courage to tell the truth people don't want to hear. I have never related to another as I did you. disarming and compelling

  • Naee Brooks
    Naee Brooks 3 месяца назад

    "An understanding washed over me even in my state even lying on the floor someone out there as deemed me worth to a very very important event"

  • Naee Brooks
    Naee Brooks 3 месяца назад

    Praise God! This women is the living word, the truth Jesus Christ has showed her his light and now she stands before us all today, strong, confident and beautiful. All of her sins and enemies, "caps" all washed away with the blood of Jesus Christ. I can relate to this women although she has definitely seen more and worse than me but we were both changed in the light of Christ and we both were able to take off our "caps". Amazing life

  • Naee Brooks
    Naee Brooks 3 месяца назад

    "Everyone is worthy, just because they exist"

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